what’s really frightening about this nascent backlash against accountability which i am witnessing in online and offline radical spaces is the way in which being responsible for respecting other people’s experiences and triggers is being coded as “codependency”, an extremely problematic term and concept from psychology which has often been used to silence and further oppress marginalized & also non NT people for ages when they confront others about their actions.
to put it bluntly: some of us can’t deal with our shit while you deal with your shit because your shit causes my shit. in fact, some of your shit creates shit i will have to face in the future and that i face every day. when people engage in radical liberatory communities, there is an unacknowledged ethical responsibility to your fellow co-inhabitants of that space, which are usually filled with people who have been intensely abused, marginalized and dis-empowered by the constant violence that is the centering of oppressive hegemonic constructs of behavior and identity.if how you are constructed by yourself and our culture allows you more power and privilege than others in any way, you are responsible for unpacking all of that. this process involves making an active effort to de-center oneself and to respect the boundaries of those who are constructed by society as having less power and privilege, and being receptive and non-defensive when confronted with the ways in which you have oppressed someone else. it is a continual process, one that is inherently intimate and complex. it is not engendering this radical state of ‘co-dependency’ and it takes a vast cowardice to try and dismiss your fellow humans as pathological and weak just because they suffer when you replicate marginalizing and oppressive behaviors.
you can’t turn away and focus on ‘your thing’ like say, Animal Rights ( we are animals you fucking assholes. sorry. too many classist racist ableist essentialist AR people in my world.) or Worker Rights ( people who need legal tender to trade for resources and want to engage in the economy under the rigid, rigid and limited construction of what constitutes ‘labor’ are disabled, are queer, are marginalized and oppressed on multiplicative and intersecting axises.)Anti-Racism/Racial Identities and Oppression,Radical Feminism,LGBTTIQ rights,Radical Environmentalism, etc, etc. kyriarchy is directly responsible for all of the oppressive constrictions on our shared realities that make it necessary to become radicalized in the first place. kyriarchy exists, even if you turn your face away: it is behind your fucking eyes. it is Always a measure of your privilege if you don’t notice it in the world around you or in your own processing. hyper-focused, goal oriented activism is only part of what goes into pushing back against our various oppressions.
yes, it is overwhelming. but that is the point; we are to share the burden of the endless struggle against kyriarchal oppression with one another,with compassion and always reaching toward empathy.
(if you like this reblog but do not steal w/o asking me.)